Trusted Adults

Young people are often told to speak to a trusted adult if they are worried, confused, upset, feeling pressured, or if something just doesn't seem right. But what makes someone a trusted adult?

A trusted adult is someone over 18 years old who:

Makes you feel safe and listened to. They might not have all the answers but should take what you say seriously and give you time to explain what's going on.

Respects you and your boundaries. They shouldn’t pressure you into saying or doing things that make you feel uncomfortable.

Wants to help keep you safe. The advice they give is focused on your wellbeing and safety.

Doesn't ask you to keep unsafe secrets. A trusted adult shouldn’t expect you to hide something because you or they might get into trouble.

You can go back to. You can talk to them again if you're still worried or if the situation changes.

Supports you to report and get help. Sometimes they may need to involve another person who can help. They should explain this to you where possible and help you understand what will happen next.

Some adults may try to gain your trust for the wrong reasons. If someone doesn't make you feel safe, listened to or supported, don't give up. Speak to another trusted adult.

A trusted adult may be someone like:

• A parent, carer or another adult family member
• A teacher, tutor or another member of staff at school or college
• A youth worker, sports coach or activity leader
• A social worker or another professional you already know
  
  

Remember

It’s ok if you can’t identify any trusted adults. Help and support is still available to you.

You don't have to be certain that something is wrong before asking for help from a trusted adult. If something feels worrying, confusing or uncomfortable, you can talk to them about it.

It might feel hard to talk to an adult, even when you know you should. You don't need to have everything figured out before reaching out for support. Just letting a trusted adult know that you need to talk is enough to get the conversation started.

You could try saying:

• "Can we talk? Something's been on my mind"
• "I'm dealing with something and I could do with some advice"
• "There's something that's worrying me, but I'm not sure how to explain it"
• "This feels a bit awkward to talk about, but I think I need some help"
• "Can I tell you something? I don't really know what to do”
• "I've been keeping something to myself, and I think I should talk to someone about it"

Whether you have a trusted adult or not, help and support is available.